Comments on: What Do You Think About Breastfeeding Older Children?

By: Hillary

Hillary — Fri, 08 Apr 2011 14:17:27 +0000

Lila, I agree, respect all around for the choices we make for our families.

“I think you can do whatever you want but in private, it’s a lack of respect when you force other people see what they do not necessarily want.”

This statement is very arbitrary though. What if I didn’t like seeing people kiss in public. Should everyone kiss in private b/c of my uncomfortable feelings?

I am personally uncomfortable with some parents chosen style of discipline. Mostly I just try to keep in check that everyone does it differently and we’re all trying to make the best decisions for our families. And sometimes we have to have tough conversations with our kids about things that feel uncomfortable, but that’s part of parenting. It’s only going to happen more and more as they older and ask tougher questions.

So if I were extremely uncomfortable with someone’s choices and it felt unhealthy for my family I’m under the opinion that’s it’s my choice to not participate, not for the other people to change for my comfort.

By: Lila

Lila — Fri, 08 Apr 2011 12:19:23 +0000

Hi,
I totally respect your point of view and if you keep going,just go ahead, they’re YOUR children.

However, I also like being respected and I feel REALLY uncomfortable trying to explain my 2 year old daughter why her older classmate is breastfed in front of everyone when we go to the playgroup.

We encourage her to be independent so she can eat/drink by herself and that doesn’t mean we love her less than a breasfed child.She knows she was breastfed when she was a baby, she’s seen lots of pictures and she says she is “a grown up now” so proud of herself

I think you can do whatever you want but in private, it’s a lack of respect when you force other people see what they do not necessarily want.
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By: Sara

Sara — Sat, 10 Apr 2010 18:14:48 +0000

My son is 26 months old, and only nurses 2-3 times a day, and relies on Mommy snuggles at night for comfort. Like many here, my initial goal was one year, then when we reached that, I decided to take it day by day. Like some other Moms, it is hard right now as I’m four months pregnant with #2, and it can sometimes be excruciatingly painful. Thankfully he is an understanding and sensitive little boy, and will gladly accept time on my lap with quite snuggle time if it is painful. The milk is also gone, but I hope when this second baby is born in September, if he is still interested the I will give tandem a try!

By: Heather Dessinger

Heather Dessinger — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 01:47:29 +0000

I came into motherhood with the ideal of “child led weaning” in my mind. My husband wasn’t a fan, but as he saw how much the nursing relationship meant to my daughter and I he became VERY supportive. My daughter is now 27 months old and still nursing. I don’t think she’s too old, and I plan to tandem with her and our next (I am four months pregnant). I am struggling, though. Not with how old she is, but with how uncomfortable it is becoming. Sometimes I think she is biting me but she isn’t. It just hurts! Still, I can’t bear to end the relationship with her knowing that in just a few months she will look with longing as her sibling nurses.
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By: Betsy

Betsy — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 05:41:42 +0000

Well now. I used to absolutely know how old was too old for breastfeeding — if they can talk, they’re too old. Mind you, that was before I actually ever breastfed or learned anything at all legit about it. Now that I’ve been breastfeeding for years, I have know stinking idea!

By: hillary

hillary — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:35:27 +0000

I like what you said CaroLyn,

There was a big shift in our relationship (with my first) when I realized I was in a relationship! My feelings/instincts counted too and it wasn’t just about whatever he wanted 100% of the time. I was actually able to nurse longer and more compassionately after giving myself permission to consider my needs in the relationship.
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