Comments on: A Successful HBAC, A Failed Birth Plan.

By: Melodie

Melodie — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 22:45:10 +0000

@TFB – I was choosing to ignore her. It’s obvious to me that she has more of an issue with this subject than I do. I don’t think I was judgmental towards my midwives at all. And she wasn’t very on topic. This post was about my HBAC not my cesarean. Whatever. I’m fine. I left her comment up because it takes all kinds and she’s the one who looks ignorant here. Not me. But I love that you came back and left another comment. Thanks for going up to bat for me. You rock girl. xx

By: TheFeministBreeder

TheFeministBreeder — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 22:34:00 +0000

Sorry you got a jerk on your blog, Melodie. I know how important the experience is. You'll never forget the way you give birth. .-= TheFeministBreeder´s last blog ..A Letter to My Friend with Breastfeeding Struggles =-.

By: SD

SD — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 06:03:53 +0000

Really?! Is it such a big deal?!Emotional scars of C section ? Come on!! Are you not glad that the CSection procedure saved you and your baby?! And I dont think you have forgiven anyone. If you truely had forgiven the midwives, you would not have written all of this story in such a judgemental manner! Poor midwives- they were trying to help you! Not fulfil some esoteric dream of yours based on some idealist idea of a ‘perfect birth’! Lady, look at your healthy baby and be happy. Forget the labor!

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Mon, 12 Apr 2010 04:19:40 +0000

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By: Dionna

Dionna — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 11:49:11 +0000

It always surprised me to hear about a midwife (esp. one who does homebirths) who advises a woman to do something like that – but I suppose midwives aren’t perfect
I’m so glad you had your HBAC, it is a beautiful story!
.-= Dionna´s last blog ..Project: Spring Green =-.

By: Amber

Amber — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 23:47:17 +0000

I’m so sorry that your wishes weren’t respected. That’s no fun.

Ironically, I had almost the opposite experience with my 2nd birth. I delivered my 1st child semi-sitting, and found it comfortable. (Or, you know, as comfortable as childbirth could possibly be).

With my 2nd I wound up on my hands and knees and did NOT like it. While everyone was willing to help me move, my body was already actively pushing and I couldn’t manage it. I was just in a place where moving felt impossible. I think the critical difference is that I don’t feel that I was coerced, it was just the way it played out. And it goes to show that following a woman’s own cues, and letting her choose her own position, is best. While I didn’t like hands and knees, that really doesn’t mean anything about how anyone else would prefer to birth.
.-= Amber´s last blog ..Everything Old is New Again =-.

By: Sally

Sally — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 09:59:50 +0000

I love your VBAC story. I don’t think any birth goes exactly perfect. I, too, had some things I would’ve asked to be different–like my midwife talking on the phone while I was pushing in the very last stages…….But your right–why write a birth plan if it is ignored last minute? You need to have the birth you visualize. Thanks for sharing this piece.
.-= Sally´s last blog ..Betcha didn’t know……. =-.