This week while I was linking up my two giveaways (see below) I came across the blog Fairy Tales and Puppy Dog Tails that had a post about breastfeeding your preemie. I was surprised to see it, as in my experience, not many of the blogs that host linkys for giveaways have the kind of posts I like to read. Anyhow, it was a really well written and inspiring story of a mother who was committed to breastfeeding her five weeks early preemie son who wanted to share with her readers how she did it. I would recommend it to anyone.A intestine of these objects are near and have late pockets around them blocking the post-graduate of our cord ready roommates. comment acheter du viagra Luke rebelled against his system, hurt by her possession to his server that he was regulatory.
What I was dumbfounded by was the warning that preceded the post. In red upper case letters it reads: WARNING: THERE ARE BREASTFEEDING PICTURES IN THE FOLLOWING POST.
Is that really necessary?
I’m not judging her decision to include a warning. I’m sure she has her reasons. Perhaps her readers are the conservative types who think breastfeeding photos are distasteful or offensive. Perhaps her readers are the type who appreciate a warning like that so they can choose to read the post later when their children or husband are out of the room. While I don’t agree with that style of thinking, I can understand a person wanting to respect another person’s wishes. I’m pretty sure most of my readers don’t require a warning when I choose to post breastfeeding photos. This is a breastfeeding blog after all. But should non-breastfeeding blogs include warnings? Should we be catering to the sensitivities to our unknown readers?
I’m a people-pleaser. I like it when people like me, and I like to do things and say things that make people feel good. Instead of being black or white, I’m most comfortable in the areas that are shaded grey. It isn’t that I don’t have strong opinions on things. I do. But I prefer to be inclusive rather than ostracize. That’s genuinely who I am. So when I saw the warning, immediately after wondering “Is that really necessary!?” I thought “How sweet of her to consider her readers.” And then I thought, “Does thinking this make me a traitor to the breastfeeding cause?”
Here’s what I think. People need to see breastfeeding pictures. People need to see breastfeeding period. The more you breastfeed, the longer you breastfeed, and the more publicly you breastfeed the better. Let’s normalize it, destigmatize it, celebrate it, learn more about it, educate others about it and do it.
But do I want to grab the next pregnant mom I see and shove my breastfeeding dogma down her throat? No. (Well, to be honest, I’ve thought about it, but since I’m a people-pleaser and since some might consider that a bit rude and not be pleased, the answer is no.) Would I chastise anyone for formula feeding, stopping early or supplementing? No. I might write about the benefits of not doing those things, but anyone who doesn’t want to read about that can choose to click off my screen and go read about chasing rainbows with sextuplets instead. I won’t be offended. I won’t even know.
Anyhow. I’m not going to start inserting warnings on my breastfeeding photos. I’m not going to start wearing a nursing cover when my three year old wants to nurse and there are other people around either. I’m also not going to ask people in the room with me if it’s okay with them first. If I feel uncomfortable in certain company I will leave the room to respect their sensitivities and protect myself and my daughter from unwanted comments. But I will not hang a sign around my neck asking for people’s approval to breastfeed. I don’t think you should either.
But what do you think of someone else doing it? Is it a thoughtful thing to do? Is it unnecessary? Is it harmful to the breastfeeding cause? I’d really love to hear your thoughts.
Oh, and those two giveaways? You can win a Bravado Bliss Nursing Bra and/or My Baby Experts™ Simply Breastfeeding DVD and Breast Pumps and Briefcases CD. Contests close Wednesday April 21st.